There comes a point in your life when you realize
Who never did
Who won’t anymore
…and who always will
So don’t worry about the people from your past
There’s a reason they didn’t make it to your future
I think this point hits you several times throughout your life, and most people my age are REALLY starting to realize who will always matter. You leave high school, and all of the sudden the people you used to see every day, who you thought you’d be in touch with for life, are no longer there. You go off to school, they go off to school, or they stay home or go somewhere else and suddenly you have new friends, they have new friends, and you lose touch. Some friends you don’t bother going back to, some friends you can catch up with once a year and its just like it used to be, and some friends you just don’t have time for, and they sadly, slip through the cracks.
Its alarming to see a large circle of close friends and acquaintances dwindle down to a a couple, a few, a handful. But that handful of friends are the most valuable and those are the ones who were always meant to stick around in your life. They are the rare few who will take the time to call, who will hug you each time you see them, who will go the long way home just so you have more time to talk, who will make you laugh, who will make you cry, who will know each and every detail about you and your life… and who will love you anyway. They are the ones who will make sacrifices for you, who will tell you they love you, who you hope your kids will call auntie and uncle.
And as for those friends you lost touch with, sometimes they were never really there to begin with. Maybe they judged you, maybe they hurt you, maybe they didn’t ever take the time to really know you, maybe they just didn’t care about you, or maybe they forgot about you. There’s no reason to worry about those people, because you learn that the good friends that you can name on one or two hands are so much more important to your life than them.
And then there are your new friends. The ones you meet in school, or work, or the “real world” who become like the ones who were always there. They treat you with kindness, they make you laugh, and they take the time to get to know you. And it only takes a short while to realize that they are always going to be there too, because now you know what kind of friend is a good friend, now you know what kind of friend is always going to be there, now you know what kind of friend will always matter.
I’d like to thank all my good friends, old and new, for always being there, for being great friends no matter what, where, how, or when. This summer, I’ve learned that it’s not about how many friends you have, its about how full your heart is of the few that will always matter. I love you guys 🙂